1How do I know if somebody is an addict?
If you are worried about someone’s drinking or drug use and you think they cannot stop or control it, then it is likely that he / she has a problem. You will also notice that their behaviour changes and this can be both when he or she is under the influence and even when they are not because addiction affects people mentally as well as physically. If you have concerns please call us to discuss it and we can give you individual advice about the person you are concerned about. Addiction is what is known as a progressive illness and things do not usually improve on their own.
2Should I tell my friend i'm seeking help on their behalf?
If your friend has acknowledged he / she has a problem and wants help then tell them you are there to support them in this first stage of getting help. If your friend is not prepared to admit to needing help at this stage it is often best to get the advice and then present some options to them - as we can discuss with you on the telephone. That way we can put some information together for them which is tailored to them as an individual.
3How to approach a partner about their problem?
The best way to approach your partner is dependent on how their addiction is affecting both him or her as an individual and how it is affecting your relationship. Sometimes a partner needs love and support when they get help; sometimes they need to be given harder options – that you will not put up with their behaviour any more. Again we can advise you according to your personal circumstances.
4Can I arrange for my partner to come and talk to somebody?
We are willing to talk to anyone and welcome visitors who want to see what we have to offer – or even to come and receive free help and advice. We prefer to meet the person who needs the help when you visit but if that is not appropriate, it is possible for family members to visit without the prospective patient.
5What can I do to help an addict/alcoholic?
The best thing you can do is not to help them to continue with their addictive behaviour. An addict / alcoholic is rarely happy and fulfilled and if you continue to tolerate their drinking / addiction then you are helping them to stay unhappy – and probably helping the people who care about them to continue worrying too. Usual advice is not to help them fund their habit or the consequences of it – and ultimately not to put up with their continuing to abuse substances. Call us for advice on your personal circumstances.