Is it better to go to a single sex rehab or a mixed sex one?
Many people ask if there are rehabs ‘just for women’ or ‘just for men’. I am often asked if single sex is the best environment for people wanting to get well. The arguments in favour of single sex rehabs could be the same as those for single sex schools – a single sex environment can be more conducive to learning, there are no distractions of attraction to the opposite sex and also for some people – usually women – they feel safer in a single sex environment.
At the Haynes Clinic, we believe it is better to have a mixed sex environment for most of the therapeutic work we do. Primarily it is essential that an individual is focused on working on his or herself, and looking at why he or she has become an addict and how to stay clean sober and happy in the future. This could argue in favour of a single sex environment. However, it is also important that we encourage people to remain in the real world where we encounter daily people of the opposite sex and all the issues this raises for us. For example, it may be that some women are naturally more timid around men or are used to being subservient. Maybe someone has issues from their childhood concerning their father or has been in a controlling relationship. It is not helpful for their future development to wrap these women up in a protected environment. They may need to learn to be more assertive and having men around them to ‘practise on’ may be beneficial. The men in rehab may benefit from learning to become more respectful around women. Maybe a man has had an issue with his mother or wife which needs to be addressed – and maybe one of his female peers will bring up these emotions for him and help us to confront them, progress and move forward.
So, there is most definitely a therapeutic benefit to having mixed sex sessions. Sometimes though it is helpful to have single sex counselling sessions and we will often have a ‘men’s group’ and a ‘women’s group’ when we see that this will be beneficial to our clients. And of course, there are always the individual one to one sessions in which very personal issues can be discussed.
We allocate each individual to a house according to where we feel they will be the most comfortable in terms of the mix of ages and sex. And all houses are fully staffed to ensure your comfort and safety.
At the Haynes Clinic we have 3 separate houses for people to stay in. It is therefore possible to allocate any of the houses to be for males or females only though this is not something we advocate in practice. For those concerned about their privacy and safety, you can be reassured that all rooms are single occupancy and it is mandatory not to have any of the other residents in your room. We allocate each individual to a house according to where we feel they will be the most comfortable in terms of the mix of ages and sex. And all houses are fully staffed to ensure your comfort and safety.
So in summary, we do not advocate single sex rehab as we feel it is important to get well in a real world environment. However, we do have separate male and female therapy sessions when appropriate and all living accommodation is safe in terms of privacy and security. If you come to the Haynes Clinic your safety, security and comfort will be our priority and these supersede a single sex environment.